Love Your Body? What About Love Yourself?

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Guest Writer: Katie Guckien (@Katiegfromkc)

Katie Guckien currently studies elementary education at the University of Missouri, and in the fall of 2014 will attend Semester at Sea. Guckien is from Overland Park, KS just west of the Kansas City area. She likes being lazy, being active, going on long hikes, and watching Netflix. Guckien runs her own blog at http://justyourordinarygirl94.wordpress.com. Opinions are her own. 

You always see articles written by powerful people about how you should love your body no matter if you are short, tall, thick, thin, old, or young. They title these articles: “Self Love” and I am a fan, but saying that loving your body is self love is leaving out an extremely important component; loving yourself, body & soul and everything it means to be you.

Often times loving yourself may be overlooked because it is harder to see who you are in the inside. It’s easier to say love your body because you know exactly what your body looks like, you see yourself everyday in the mirror. So, yes, part of loving yourself is loving your body, but there is so much more than just loving who you are on the outside.

So you should definitely master the art of loving your body and owning how you look no matter how imperfect the magazines say you are, but repeatedly teaching young people to focus on loving your body and rarely teaching them about loving you is supporting the fact that loving your exterior is more important than loving your interior, and that is not what we need in our society.

I love how compelled people are to write about how you are beautiful no matter what anyone else says. I love that we have people fighting for what true beauty really is instead of what the media tells us. I love reading what these brilliant writers have to say, but I also believe we need to incorporate more into this self loving process.

Read the articles that all these amazing writers are composing for you, and listen to what they say and believe in what they say, because what they say is important, but don’t just stop at loving your body because there is so much more to you than your outward appearance.

So learn about yourself, think about who you are and what makes you awesome and learn to love that as well. Don’t ever forget that self love means loving your body and loving your heart, brain, thought-processes, stories, sense of humor, and so much more.

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The 5 Most Important Inventions in Human History

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Guest Writer: Zackary Carpenter (@zackmacg)

Zackary Carpenter currently studies magazine journalism at the University of Missouri. He is from Blanchard, Okla. just south of Oklahoma City. Carpenter likes video games, science fiction, beat poetry and various forms of music. Opinions are his own.

To say on the Internet that the Internet is the greatest invention in human history is just an example of a network-based circle jerk. In a May 2012 post on livescience.com, Natalie Wolchover wrote that, “the global system of interconnected computer networks known as the Internet is used by billions of people worldwide.”

While this is true, and while the Internet has surged human innovation forward, it simply would not have been possible without these five inventions. They are the groundwork for the rest of human innovation, and in my personal opinion, they are the most important.

They are also the most universal.

5.   Hitting rocks repeatedly until they break, then moving them elsewhere and stacking them

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Otherwise known as masonry, the act of building with stone might go back to when humans were living in caves. They might have wanted to add a second bedroom onto their already spacious four-person hovel, so they would extend the mouth of their cave outward. The human need to increase a home’s resale value drove innovation forward.

In the 3rd millennium BCE, the ancient Pharos took real estate development to unprecedented heights. They erected massive stone temples to their pantheon of gods, and, like most wealthy individuals in human history, to themselves.

But the Egyptians weren’t the sole creators of masonry. It turns out that across Central America, South America, and Asia, a simultaneous technological leap was taking place. The Romans later added concrete to the mix, and before all of this was taking place, Ancient Sumerians were cooking clay bricks.

4.   Taking shiny materials, and then hammering or burning them until they look kind of like what we want them to look like

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This one is special. Without metalworking, the modern world simply wouldn’t be possible. It’s also special because, unlike masonry, a lot of metalworking’s early history is based around chemistry.

The likely first metal to have been worked was gold. It has the lowest oxidation level of the seven metals known to the ancients, which means that gold can be found in nature as (almost) pure nuggets. It is easy to bend, and you really only need stone tools to work with it.

After gold, copper and tin were each extracted from the earth. As early as 7000 BCE, metalworking was being carried out in South Asia. Iraq, though, wins the award for having the oldest archeological evidence of copper mining and working. A copper pendant was discovered there.

3. Making roads go in a straight line, putting all the smiths in one place and rich people in another, prettier place, and putting important buildings in the middle

City planning today is perhaps one of the most under appreciated professions there is. How often do you hear someone say,

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Photo by Paulo Barcellos Jr.

“Here’s my daughter, the urban designer?” If you answered often, then you run in a very exclusive circle of people.

The first examples of city planning can be found everywhere, literally everywhere: China, India, Egypt, Asia Minor, the Mediterranean world, and North and South America. Once governments became powerful enough to impose order on urban chaos, they did.

Without city planning, intricate transportation networks simply wouldn’t be possible. Every city would look like Washington D.C., except even less intuitively planned. The economies of ancient states would never have taken off. Empires would’ve never been born.

2. Drawing shapes on stone, papyrus, or paper, and then telling everyone what those shapes mean

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Photo by Biblio De Tours.

Writing allows humans to pass information along to one another effectively. It also allows us to communicate, in a rudimentary sense, to people we will never see. The spread of knowledge around the world and generations down the line has given our species a rich understanding of the world and our place in it.

Writing is believed to have been invented in Sumer around 3200 BCE and in Mesoamerica around 600 BCE. It is debated that writing could have also been independently invented in Egypt around 3200 BCE and in China around 1200 BCE. It is clear that writing something down is an inevitable result of increasing technological advancement. At a point, it just becomes necessary to write down how to mine copper.

Also Harry Potter.

1.   Putting seeds in a hole, covering them with dirt and dung, and then eating whatever grows

Agriculture is the basis for human civilization. In Guns, Germs, and Steel, the argument is quite clearly made that without agriculture, humanity would still be roaming about the world. Our tribes would never expand past around 100 people.

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Photo by Luc Viatour

The most stunning result of agriculture, though, is that it led to domestication of animals. It led to mining metals out of the earth to better plow the land and level forests. It led to the wheel (in most areas of the world) to better transport larger quantities of food. It led to cities, which in turn led to a pressure cooker of human ideas. The numbers one and zero wouldn’t have come into existence without agriculture. Governments wouldn’t have power, and money would have no basis. Most importantly, we wouldn’t have french-fries.

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LYB (Love Your Body)

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Guest Writer: Brittany King (@Brittany_King93)

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Brittany King is a junior at the University of Missouri where she studies communications and fashion merchandising. In her spare time, King enjoys surfing the web on Tumblr, sketching original fashion designs and trying new recipes with friends. Upon graduation, King would like to work in fashion public relations alongside her media idol, Kelly Cutrone.

With magazine headlines like “Drop 10 pounds in a week!” and others proclaiming that “real women have curves,” it can be pretty hard to decipher what look is right for your body, but to me the answer is simple. In short, your weight should be whatever the hell you want it to be.

Now I’m not here to knock those that do their best to exercise at least three times a week, or anyone who watches what they eat (I’m one of them, most of the time) but I am here to explain how loving your body for what it does for you on a daily basis, instead what a number on a scale says, is truly life changing.

Before entering college most of us hear about the dreaded freshman 15, well here at the University of Missouri, it’s called the Mizzou 22, which kind of made me nervous. I never liked my body growing up and it was because those shitty magazines I mentioned earlier made me feel like I had to look like Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera (I’m a 90’s kid if you couldn’t tell). Well, I didn’t look like them and so of course I thought there was something wrong with me.

After my first week of college I literally couldn’t understand how someone could gain weight coming to college, there was so much walking! But once my body got used to the daily walking, the pounds packed on.

%22IN SHORT, YOUR WEIGHT SHOULD BEBy the time I came home from winter break I had gained the Mizzou 22 and then some and it was not a good feeling. So I did something about it. I threw out every crappy thing in my dorm room, started using the million dollar recreational complex my student fees pay for and I began counting calories (I realize that last one isn’t for everyone, to each their own). In short, it worked. I was dropping weight consistently week after week and it felt great, but I still wasn’t happy.

Much to my surprise, seeing a smaller number on the scale didn’t make me feel any better, in fact, most days I felt worse because I had changed what I thought was the problem, but was still unhappy.

It was because I didn’t love myself, I didn’t appreciate my body for the awesome things it does, I was relying on a three digit number to make me happy instead of making myself happy and appreciating everything else that was going well in my life.

That’s the one thing the magazines and diet pills/plans are missing, self love. It’s easy to have positive thoughts when you’re continuously losing weight week after week, but what about that first week when you don’t lose, or what if you’re in a month long slump?

Weight loss is just as much about what you lose as it is about what you gain, but if you don’t start learning to love yourself as you are right now, you’re still going to feel pretty crappy even if you do hit your weight loss goals.

I’ve definitely gotten off track, I’ve gained some of the weight I lost back, but I’m okay because I started focusing on how I felt every day instead of letting the scale tell me how to feel and that has truly made all the difference.

I now believe in the radical power of self love. There is truly no better feeling than waking up and loving what you see when you look in the mirror whether you just got a bad haircut or have on a full face of makeup. You could lose all the weight in the world, and have a body like your biggest celebrity idol, but if you don’t love yourself for who you are today, right this moment, you’ll never be happy.

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It’s Okay to Have Herpes (Part 2)

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Guest Writer: Anonymous 

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If you haven’t seen part 1Click Here

Being a curious person, I automatically searched for basic facts on the herpes simplex virus once I found out I contracted it. According to projectaccept.org, approximately 75% – 80% of people in the United States have either HSV-1 or HSV-2. Out of this percentage, around 80% of those infected will never have symptoms. When putting these two percentages together, this means that 60% – 64% of American have either strain of the herpes simplex virus, and will never have symptoms in their life. 20% – 25% of Americans do not have either strain, and 11-20% of Americans have either HSV-1 or HSV-2 and show symptoms. According to these statistics, the person that transmitted the HSV-1 to me was most likely not aware of the virus themselves.

The University of Montreal had interesting facts and statistics on the emotional and mental experiences during herpes outbreaks, which I found to be very fascinating. During the first episode of a herpes outbreak, 82% of people experienced depression, 75% had a fear of rejection, 69% had a fear of isolation, 55% had a fear of “being found out”, and 28% had self-destructive feelings. Many of these feelings persist throughout the first year while having outbreaks, with depression and fear of rejection still being as high as 52%. I can much relate to these feelings, and I remember feeling depressed, rejected, and isolated when I first found out. I can happily say that as time has passed, these negative feelings have subsided, although they still exist and occur occasionally.

Another statistics grabbed my attention as well, because it was specific to how I contract the virus. According to a University of Wisconsin study, 78% of genital herpes infections that were diagnosed in their clinic in 1994-2003 were due to HSV-1, which is typically associated with the oral strain of herpes. A clinic in Nova Scotia, Canada had similar results, finding 73.7% of women under the age of 30 who had genital herpes had the HSV-1 strain, and not the HSV-2 strain. All these statistics, especially these last statistics, have given me hope. I now know that I am not alone, and that many people are experiencing the exact same thing in regards to how they contracted their herpes virus. It made me feel not as alienated, and that the right people will understand and still love me just the way that I am. I am no longer scared to admit that I have herpes to close friends of mine, but I am keeping this anonymous to protect those involved or mentioned in this blog and my personal life.

If you are reading this and have herpes, just know that you are not alone. Always inform any sexual partner of your herpes virus, and explain to them that they may or may not contract the virus, or may already have the virus and are asymptomatic. Use barrier methods of birth control, such as condoms, female condoms, and dental dams, to prevent the transmission of the herpes virus. Outside of sex partners, feel free to tell anyone, everyone, or nobody, because it is your body and your life, and you can choose how much you want to share to the world. Be confident in yourself, and know that anyone in their right mind should accept you for who you are, flaws and all.

If you do not have herpes (or symptoms), I strongly suggest that you open your eyes to any stigmatizations you might hold to the idea of herpes. I have seen people be slut-shamed and almost dehumanized for having herpes. One time I went out with a friend, and I overheard a friend of hers talking to someone. “Don’t hang out with him, I heard he has herpes,” she said in the same tone that I had used the word in the past. Since this girl had been talking to us and had only shortly started talking to this other person, I interjected. I asked if she knew what kind of herpes he had and where on his body, and she just looked at me puzzled. I told her he could just have a cold sore for all she knew, and to not worry about it. Although I still used that lovely Burroughs Wellcome strategy of making cold sores acceptable and not the genital strain, I tried the best that I could to make this girl realize that herpes does not devalue a person in any way, shape or form.

Herpes or not, we need to be more cognizant of how we treat herpes in our society. I had to learn the hard way of contracting the virus myself to realize how stigmatized it truly is, and that the feelings of shame and guilt are not necessary when contracting the virus. I will admit having herpes is not the most desirable thing in the world, but it is manageable, and over time becomes easier. While it is important to still be careful of STDs and to practice safe sex, just remember that contracting herpes does not make you any less of a person, but on the contrary. Living with herpes is a very personal battle, and the more a person infected with the virus accepts their status, the more courage and bravery they gain. Be proud of who you are, and do not let the herpes simplex virus stop you from being yourself.

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It’s Okay to Have Herpes (Part 1)

It's Okay to Have Herpes (Part 1

Guest Writer: Anonymous 

Opinions are their own. 

I remember a very particular instance last winter, when I was at a club, dancing away and having a good time. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw a guy dancing with an acquaintance of mine, but he had a visible cold sore on his lower lip. He was trying to kiss her, but she was resisting (To this day I am not sure if she resisted due to his cold sore or for other reasons). My eyes widened, and as soon as the two of them had stopped dancing, I told her that she better have not kissed him with that huge cold sore on his mouth. “He could have given you herpes,” I distinctly remember saying, with such a distain for the word that it was difficult to even say it. “I’m just looking out for you,” I finished my thought, as though it were some justification to protect her from the virus. That was the first real instance I realized that I was scared and disgusted by the thought of having herpes anywhere on my body. In retrospect, I remembered a time when I let someone borrow my lip balm without thinking about it, and I soon became paranoid I was going to contract herpes. I was happy to not have herpes, and was repulsed by the idea of ever having it.

This disdain for herpes is widely common in Western society, but it has actually only been around for a few decades. In 1975, the pharmaceutical company Burroughs Wellcome created the first antiviral medication to lessen the symptoms of the herpes simplex virus. In order to sell their medication, the company used the psychological strategy of “disease mongering”, which is convincing a demographic that a common and minor disease or illness is actually rather shameful or embarrassing to have. Essentially, Burroughs Wellcome advertised that it was okay to have “cold sores”, or the oral strain of the herpes simplex virus, HSV-1. However, they exclaimed that the genital strain of the herpes simplex virus, HSV-2, was a shameful disease that should be treated immediately. Their marketing was successful, and the stigmatization of genital herpes, and herpes in general, exists more than ever.

For years, I was what I would refer to as a “herpes hater”, until the day came that I contracted herpes. At first, I thought I had a urinary tract infection due to frequency and pain when I went to pee. I had read that UTIs were common in women, and can happen spontaneously. I had also had a sexual encounter about 5 days beforehand, and I had read that UTIs could occur from sex as well. When the pain did not subside and more symptoms occurred, I knew something else was wrong with me. Immediately having this realization, I started bawling into the arms of my roommate. At first, I was mad at the person who had “given it to me”, for thinking they had withheld information of knowing they had something. Shortly after, I was angry with myself, thinking that I was stupid and irresponsible. A million thoughts were rushing through my head, and none of them were positive. I told myself at first that even though two forms of birth control were used, that there was still a realm of risk that I had not considered. I thought I deserved it for not thinking through all the consequences. I saw myself as undesirable, and that any potential romantic partner would leave me once they found out.

After finally going to health care clinic and seeking professional help, I had received my test results two or three days later that I had contracted HSV-1, the oral strain. At first I was confused by these results, but then it immediately dawned on me that I had oral sex without any barrier, and that’s how I contracted it. I had never known anyone that actually used dental dams for oral sex, and I would have never considered that for any of my sexual relations. After this realization, a feeling occurred within me that could all be traced back to the Burroughs Wellcome pharmaceutical company. That feeling was happiness. I did not have the genital strain from having sex with an irresponsible partner. I merely contracted the oral strain of herpes from someone who is prone to cold sores, which was a lot of people. This feeling of happiness lasted a day or two, but then another realization dawned on me. It did not matter if I had the oral, genital, or some kind of mutant strain that was unknown to humans. I had herpes, and I was going to have it in my body for the rest of my life.

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Too Gay to Diagnose

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Image Zackary Carpenter realized he had mono in early September after his liver and kidneys started to fail. Carpenter believes doctors are not given enough training treating gay men. Screenshot from Berkeley Lovelace Jr.

Guest Writer: Zackary Carpenter (@zackmacg)

Zackary Carpenter currently studies magazine journalism at the University of Missouri. He is from Blanchard, Okla. just south of Oklahoma City. Carpenter likes video games, science fiction, beat poetry and various forms of music. Opinions are his own. Place close attention when marked (ATT:)

When I was 19 years old, my liver and kidneys began to fail and my muscles started deteriorating. My blood was extremely toxic and I had a severe headache. I felt like a Centaurian slug was digging into my head, and I did not know where the hell Spock was. This is the story of how I learned that doctors know very little about gay men, and what they learned…

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Too Gay to Diagnose

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Zackary Carpenter realized he had mono in early September after his liver and kidneys started to fail. Carpenter believes doctors are not given enough training treating gay men. Screenshot from Berkeley Lovelace Jr.

 

Guest Writer: Zackary Carpenter (@zackmacg)

Zackary Carpenter currently studies magazine journalism at the University of Missouri. He is from Blanchard, Okla. just south of Oklahoma City. Carpenter likes video games, science fiction, beat poetry and various forms of music. Opinions are his own. Place close attention when marked (ATT:)

When I was 19 years old, my liver and kidneys began to fail and my muscles started deteriorating. My blood was extremely toxic and I had a severe headache. I felt like a Centaurian slug was digging into my head, and I did not know where the hell Spock was. This is the story of how I learned that doctors know very little about gay men, and what they learned in five hours of training.

I am not HIV positive, and even though I am a gay male, I do not have any other STIs to my knowledge. I always use a condom during anal sex, and I am very careful about how I go about oral sex. I never mix sex with alcohol, and I have never used intravenous needles to take a drug. Continue reading

‘Okay, Everybody Take Some Rubbers’

“Don’t have sex. Because you will get pregnant and die. Don’t have sex in the missionary position, don’t have sex standing up. Just don’t do it, promise? Okay, everybody take some rubbers,” Coach Carr, from “Mean Girls.”

People have sex. Coach Carr knew that when he passed around condoms to a gym full of teenagers after his famous anti-sex rant. Props to Tina Fey! But, he was right. Sex does come with risks (but not likely immediate death).

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention the rate of HIV/AIDS has increased among adults with African-Americans at the most risk. Other sexually transmitted diseases, often a bacterial, parasitic or viral infection, are still a major issue too.

But, why? Sex education and STDs awareness have increased in the past decade. Until, a conclusive answer has been made, here are a few ways to protect you and your partner during sex.

1. Communication

Engage in an open and honest communication about sex with your partner. Each time you enter a new relationship take time to talk about your sexual history and experiences.

2. Get tested regularly

Go to your doctor or a free clinic regularly to screen for sexually transmitted infections or diseases. Ask your partner to do it with you. If your partner is unwilling to know their status, then you may need to find a new partner.

3. Use a condom

Condoms are simple to use and widely available at counseling service locations. Understand that other forms of sex are risky too. Consider using dental dam for oral sex or a female condom for vaginal sex

4. And Lastly, Know Your Body

Pay attention to your body. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t engage in it.

For the best information please see your doctor or primary care physician. I do not have a health degree, nor am I substitute for medical advice. This information was found through research.

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Beat Spring Allergies

Spring has now sprung, and that means the occasional runny nose, watery eyes and sneezing.

According to American Academy of Allergy Asthma and Immunology millions suffer from mild to chronic allergy symptoms during the spring season. Allergies are among the most common chronic conditions worldwide. Typically allergens, such as pollen, prompt symptoms in the nose, throat, lungs, sinuses, ears, lining of the stomach and skin.

Unfortunately, there are no cures for allergies. The best way to manage allergies is through prevention and proper treatment.

Here are four preventive measures to survive spring allergies:

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According to the Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America say allergies are the country’s most common, yet overlooked, diseases. Photo by Berkeley Lovelace Jr.

1. Shut the Windows

  • Keep the pollen out of your home and vehicle. Close the windows, and use air conditioning instead.

2. Check Pollen Counts

  • Limit your time outside if pollen levels are too high. To keep track of pollen levels, check your local news stations for current readings, or go to the AAAI website.

3. Do Outdoor Activities in the Afternoon

  • Pollens levels are said to be higher in the early-to-mid morning, and then decrease in the afternoon.

4. See your Doctor

  • Your doctor is the best person to help with preventative measures for spring allergies. If problems become serious, your doctor can help provide the best medication for you.

For the best information please see your doctor or primary health physician. I do not have a health degree, nor am I substitute for medical advice. This information was found through research.

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Gunter Hans (Here to Fill the Winter Hiatus)

Right now I am on a hiatus from blogging until winter break is over and the spring semester starts up. To add some new material to my blog, I decided to post some photos I took for a team project last semester. The project was essentially profiling a small downtown European bar in Columbia called, Gunter Hans. This does not directly fit my theme of lifestyle and health, but for the sake of adding some material, here ya go viewers!  I hope you enjoy the photos. New, normal material will be posted soon.

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