Guest Writer: Brittany King (@Brittany_King93)
Brittany King is a junior at the University of Missouri where she studies communications and fashion merchandising. In her spare time, King enjoys surfing the web on Tumblr, sketching original fashion designs and trying new recipes with friends. Upon graduation, King would like to work in fashion public relations alongside her media idol, Kelly Cutrone.
With magazine headlines like “Drop 10 pounds in a week!” and others proclaiming that “real women have curves,” it can be pretty hard to decipher what look is right for your body, but to me the answer is simple. In short, your weight should be whatever the hell you want it to be.
Now I’m not here to knock those that do their best to exercise at least three times a week, or anyone who watches what they eat (I’m one of them, most of the time) but I am here to explain how loving your body for what it does for you on a daily basis, instead what a number on a scale says, is truly life changing.
Before entering college most of us hear about the dreaded freshman 15, well here at the University of Missouri, it’s called the Mizzou 22, which kind of made me nervous. I never liked my body growing up and it was because those shitty magazines I mentioned earlier made me feel like I had to look like Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera (I’m a 90’s kid if you couldn’t tell). Well, I didn’t look like them and so of course I thought there was something wrong with me.
After my first week of college I literally couldn’t understand how someone could gain weight coming to college, there was so much walking! But once my body got used to the daily walking, the pounds packed on.
By the time I came home from winter break I had gained the Mizzou 22 and then some and it was not a good feeling. So I did something about it. I threw out every crappy thing in my dorm room, started using the million dollar recreational complex my student fees pay for and I began counting calories (I realize that last one isn’t for everyone, to each their own). In short, it worked. I was dropping weight consistently week after week and it felt great, but I still wasn’t happy.
Much to my surprise, seeing a smaller number on the scale didn’t make me feel any better, in fact, most days I felt worse because I had changed what I thought was the problem, but was still unhappy.
It was because I didn’t love myself, I didn’t appreciate my body for the awesome things it does, I was relying on a three digit number to make me happy instead of making myself happy and appreciating everything else that was going well in my life.
That’s the one thing the magazines and diet pills/plans are missing, self love. It’s easy to have positive thoughts when you’re continuously losing weight week after week, but what about that first week when you don’t lose, or what if you’re in a month long slump?
Weight loss is just as much about what you lose as it is about what you gain, but if you don’t start learning to love yourself as you are right now, you’re still going to feel pretty crappy even if you do hit your weight loss goals.
I’ve definitely gotten off track, I’ve gained some of the weight I lost back, but I’m okay because I started focusing on how I felt every day instead of letting the scale tell me how to feel and that has truly made all the difference.
I now believe in the radical power of self love. There is truly no better feeling than waking up and loving what you see when you look in the mirror whether you just got a bad haircut or have on a full face of makeup. You could lose all the weight in the world, and have a body like your biggest celebrity idol, but if you don’t love yourself for who you are today, right this moment, you’ll never be happy.
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